Financial Lovemaking with Dr. Boyce: Is Irv Gotti's Way the Right Way?

Hip-hop "mogul" Irv Gotti has gotten tremendous criticism for mistreating his estranged wife, Deb. Let's be real, Irv is mean and appears to be highly inconsiderate. He cheats on Deb openly, disrespects her and doesn't seem to care if she stays or goes.

"Irv Gotti treats his wife worse than an abandoned dog in a pound," says black celebrity gossip columnist, Lady Drama. "Any man who treats his wife like that should walk through hell with gasoline soaked pants."

But while Irv does his thing and does it wherever and with whomever he likes, his wife may not necessarily be an innocent victim. She has the opportunity to leave him and be with another man. She can draw boundaries on the relationship and not deal with his behavior. But she does not. Why is that?

In this episode of Financial Lovemaking with Dr. Boyce, we talk about Gotti and what he and his wife can do to make things right. We also answer some critical and important questions.

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When should the woman draw the line on a man's behavior? If a woman is being mistreated by a man, is it her fault for allowing for the mistreatment or should he know to treat her with more respect? What if a man has a lot of money, does that give him greater boundaries for good or bad behavior? What about the children? Should you endure tough relationships for the sake of the kids?

Dr Boyce Watkins and S. Tia Brown break down the issues behind the Gotti relationship and how the Gotti family can find ways to make their lives better. They also battle back and forth on whether it is Mr. or Mrs. Gotti who needs to shape up or ship out. Click below to listen!

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