OK, if you cheer when you read this story, then you need some serious help. If you squirm when you hear it, then I know you're a man. But here it goes:

Three women are facing charges for kidnapping their cheating boyfriend and Krazy gluing his penis to his stomach. They also allegedly threatened him with a gun, and held him hostage in a hotel.

As I mentioned in my analysis of the famous Oakland Salon Beating, I have to remind people that "handlin' your business" on your own is not a good idea in your relationship. It might feel good, but being too emotional can land you in jail.

This leads to a broader Financial Lovemaking question about jealousy and how to handle it. We'd all be lying if we didn't consider doing something angry and illegal in the midst of a jealous rage. The idea that someone would betray us and cut us to the core of our heart can make us feel that they deserve whatever they get. Based on my research on the biochemistry of love, the truth is that there are chemicals going off in your brain that could make you a good candidate for a sturdy straight jacket. Understanding how to manage these emotions can make the difference between good, healthy love and collect phone calls from jail to your mama on Christmas.

In order to help all of us manage our next fit with jealousy, I've decided to share some tips on how to control the jealousy you might feel during a relationship. By following these steps, you might be able to save yourself a whole lot of money in court costs, jail time or other valuable assets that you don't want to lose. In the case of the three women who decided to Krazy glue a man's genitals, they may get the satisfaction of losing their freedom, their careers and their families for several years.

These jealousy tips don't just work for relationships. They work for any situation in which you find yourself feeling jealous for any reason: toward a co-worker who got a promotion or toward a friend who has a relationship that is better than yours. It might also explain away the jealous rages you witness in those around you. It's not something to take personally if you understand what might be going on. Being in the public eye, I've seen a great deal of jealousy up close and it took me a while and a great deal of research to understand how all this works. It was a great growth experience for me.

Here are the tips on managing your own jealousy:

1) Get a life: If you have a life of your own, you won't spend all your time in somebody else's business. Rather than worrying about what your significant other, your rival or your best friend is doing, focus on what you are doing yourself. This will fill the space in your brain that might normally be spent "hating on" someone or being insecure about someone else's life.

2) Identify the causes of your insecurity: In a relationship, we might be jealous because we feel that we are overweight or not as appealing as our mate's prospects. In a friendship, we might feel that our friend is more successful than we are because they have qualities we don't possess. Identifying the source of your jealousy and then rationalizing your way to a healthy coping mechanism can help you get over the green eyed monster.

3) Stop comparing yourself to others. We all have strengths and weaknesses. Everything that seems great for your friend on the outside may not reflect the turmoil they are experiencing on the inside. Don't worry about what other people have going for themselves, focus on the gifts you have to offer the world.

4) Get on your damn job. In Jennifer Hudson's song, 'Spotlight,' she sings about a man who is jealous of other men and tries to control her, because he isn't treating her right. Rather than barking at every person who might be a better fit for your mate, why not just treat your partner better in the first place? If you are doing your job, then you won't have nearly as much to worry about. When it comes to being jealous of a successful friend, your jealousy is probably reflective of the fact that you are not doing what you know you need to do. Instead of getting mad at your friend or your rival for being successful, get your mind right and get your game tight.

In the episode of Financial Lovemaking below, S. Tia Brown and I discuss the "Crazy Glue Genitalia" incident, as well as the effects of jealousy on our relationships and how it can ruin your financial future. Click below to listen!

Dr Boyce Watkins is a finance professor at Syracuse University. He does regular commentary in national media, including CNN, MSNBC, BET and more. To have Boyce's commentary delivered directly to your e-mail, please click here.