By Boyce Watkins, PhD on Jan 28th 2010 10:23AM
In this episode of
Financial Lovemaking, S. Tia Brown and I explore the following question: Is it right to put your lover on blast in public when you feel that they've disappointed you? Well, that's exactly what happened recently, when Oracle's co-president Chuck Phillips and his ex-girlfriend YaVaughnie Wilkins got into it. Phillips, who is now working to reconcile with his wife, got a surprise when Wilkins put "soul mates forever" pictures of her and Phillips on billboards in Times Square in New York (where Phillips has an apartment), Atlanta (where his wife and son reside) and San Francisco (near Oracle, where Phillips works and also where he bought his former mistress an $11 million dollar home from which she has allegedly been evicted).
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Recording artist/actress Mary J. Blige attends the ESSENCE Black Women in Music event at the Sunset Tower Hotel on January 27, 2010 in West Hollywood, California.
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When considering what happened to Phillips, the question is whether or not Wilkins was right to engage in this kind of behavior. If the situation were reversed and Phillips had taken nude pictures or videos of Wilkins and put them on the Internet, would that have been right? When is this kind of behavior justified or is it simply vindictive?
In the episode of Financial Lovemaking below, we explore all of these possibilities. Enjoy!
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By: Sandi on 1/30/2010 12:44AM
He got exactly what he deserved. HE was married, NOT his mistress. I did the same thing except I was the wife and caught my husband with some tramp. I put pictures of them caught in various uncompromising positions EVERYWHERE. AND I DO MEAN EVERYWHERE. Then I divorced his behind,took ALL HIS MONEY, and had her arrested for trespassing when she came to my house to confront me. It cost both of them their jobs and reputation and I am happier than I have ever been in my life. And, yes I do have a new husband and would do the same thing again if need be.
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By: jay on 1/31/2010 3:15PM
A woman scorned indeed. You play with fire you may get burned. All things done in the dark will come to light. The truth always prevails. Karma is a B*****. All apply!!!
Oh well to him and oh well to the mistress and oh well to the wife too because I am sure she knew. You lie with dogs you will itch eventually.
Have a little more self respect and leave those who treat you badly.
Last but not least, the comparison is not equal when you mention him posting nude pics of her...I am quite sure after 11 years she could have posted nude pics of him but she chose another route...indeed its vindictive but I am sure he was just as vindictive...we can all be very cold and cruel when we choose to be.
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By: sherridina on 2/01/2010 12:05PM
This broad has alot of nerve. He was stupid and immoral, but the bitch needs to move on. His wife was scorned. She was just played.
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By: sherridina on 2/01/2010 12:30PM
Mistresses shouldn't have expectations. It would have been different if he was separated from his wife for years.
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By: Momz on 2/02/2010 6:25AM
This just makes me wonder if the COST of this billboard was how much? Hopefully just the satisfaction was the solice her....
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By: e on 2/03/2010 7:22PM
Does anyone know what a tragic flaw is?
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