By Alexis Stodghill on Aug 16th 2010 5:33PM
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A new study out claims that a man is more likely to cheat on his wife or live-in partner if she earns considerably more money. We found this to be the case when Sandra Bullock and Jesse James very publicly ended their marriage. Plus, Bobby Brown's infidelity was the final nail in the coffin of Whitney's ill-fated marriage to the less-wealthy crooner. But why would this be the case? Wouldn't a man so financially dependent on his mate want to keep his partner happy, and thus keep the gravy train flowing? Not so. In this study that was just published,
researchers found:
Cheating may be a man's way of trying to restore his gender identity when he feels it is under threat, Christin Munsch, a sociology doctorate candidate at Cornell University, says in the study, which she authored and presented at the annual meeting of the American Sociological Association.
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If this is really the case, men and women may be heading toward a sad state of affairs based on the reality of current financial conditions. As the world continues to change during these evolving economic times, traditional gender roles regarding money and relationships also need to change. Unlike in previous decades, it is not predictable which partner in a couple will be the high earner given a myriad of factors. Thus, the time has come for men and women to drop equating earning a lot of money with masculinity. Plus, being financially dependent does not equal being feminine.
Earning a lot of money is related to education, preparation, creativity and a bit of luck, not what sex you were born as. If men and women don't learn this now, the future of partnered relationships might be doomed as the world's economic structures, and related social structures, continue to be in flux. It's hard to give up old gender roles and develop new, satisfying and more realistic means of defining what it means to be masculine or feminine. But emotionally and financially speaking, for both genders, it will be worth it -- and this will greatly benefit our overall society.
Has this ever happened to you? Have you or a friend ever been cheated on because you earned more money than your partner? Or less?
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By: Karolina on 8/16/2010 6:06PM
If my wife made more or less I wont cheat. It all depends how she treat me. Her money don't give me love I respect a woman more if she money but her monetary status doesnt give her more worht in my eyes.
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By: Bran84 on 8/17/2010 8:26AM
really don't expect some men to admit they have been threatened by a woman's income. My brother who has worked in Human Resources for years had women tell him their husband's would not feel comfortable with the raise they received. It's all relative. Jesse James may be making millions but perhaps not Bullock or Berry millions. Halle's ex ball-player husband said in an interview once that when he met Halle she didn't have that much. (Solution: Get with someone who doesn't have too much much for you or bruise your ego.) The Halle Berrys and Sandra Bullocks of the world need men who are very secure in their own ablitities, free thinking and independent. Maybe these type of men are in shorter supply and harder to find . Smart men (or women) know that sacrifices come with a highly ambitious partner. Bottom line handle what you can handle and choose wisely. I have yet to here of a woman who has difficulty with the amount of income her partner makes likely because women have been socailized from birth to appreciate a successful partner
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By: stare k on 8/17/2010 8:27AM
I was divoraced for eleven yres. Dont give me that crap about money. I sceen more men with good working wives & good looking most look better than the mistress .And the husband still played around two in my family left their wives , for those trashy/ getto mistress . You are sleeping in a glass house . I trust a man as far as I can throw him .Yes some women cheat . Guess what you all drove us to cheat .When you are cheating it is sweeter than sweet .As my g.mama say a empty wagon make a lots of noise.Wait LOAD IT UP ,see how much noise it make . Once u get use to her/ him u say this IS NOT GREEN GRASS THIS , S*T is burned up . Let me see can I get my wife back .OUCH
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By: justin on 8/18/2010 9:17AM
Lady, vent to someone who cares. Don't nobody wanna hear why you're so bitter, sad, and angry. Its a cold world, everybody don't get the story book ending.
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By: Lynn on 8/17/2010 10:26AM
Why would we give men another excuse to cheat? He knew what she made before he said I do. Nothing gives him an excuse to put all of their lives at risk, mentally, emotionally, physically or medical. She makes more money because of the education that she received and the job that she accepted. He can also get off his ( ) and make more. How is he using what he has? Are they working as a couple or stuck in mine and yours land? Men and women who cheat do so at their own will. It has nothing to do with who makes more. That's is just another excuse. Be accountable for your choices.
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By: Shellfish789 on 8/17/2010 1:01PM
bo-ho...bo ho...bo-ho...another excuse for men to cheat.....I never seen so many excuse for men to cheat.....another excuse to down a BW........this is all garbage.....
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By: blkman on 8/17/2010 3:27PM
A new study out claims... Stop right there we all no men with money and power run this world and do as they please, who gets more cooche a broke ass man or a powerful one, you do the math.
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By: stare k on 8/18/2010 2:32PM
dog, dog, dog, dog, dog . that what it is jip dog
hound dog , community dog . You are all dogs
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By: stare k on 8/18/2010 2:41PM
no they just pay more for women You all are the.hound dog jip dog,poodel dog ,weiner dog german shepard dog,hunting dog, house dog,little dog, big dog &the community dog ho dog . just to name a few . Have a nice day .
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By: bree on 8/19/2010 5:51AM
Does a fondness for internet porn count as cheating? If so, my husband is guilty...and yes I earn more....lots more
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