Former NFL Player, Bigamist, Causes Family Financial Turmoil

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Former NFL running back Tom Sullivan
A judge in Pennsylvania recently ruled that former NFL running back Tom Sullivan's death benefits should not go to the wife he was allegedly married to after his death. Instead, the benefits should go to a woman he married years earlier, but never divorced.

Tom Sullivan's ex-wife Barbara Sullivan has two daughters with the player from their 16-year marriage. Since Tom's death in 2002, Barbara and their two daughters were receiving $2,700 per month under the NFL's spousal benefit policy. Under South Carolina's bigamy law, the benefits do not legally belong to her and were stopped immediately.

Lavona Hill married Tom Sullivan in 1979 and parted ways with him in 1983. She is the one that has stepped forward to claim the benefits. Efforts by Tom's second wife to share the money were rejected by Lavona, who wanted all of the money herself.


"In our society, if marriage is going to mean anything, you have to have a beginning point and an end point," said David B. Sherman, Hill's lawyer. "You can't have a bigamy relationship." Sullivan was married a total of three times, including a short marriage in college. Both women knew about the first marriage, but neither knew anything about the other. Tom married Sullivan in 1986.

Besides engaging in behavior that would ultimately ruin his family financially, Sullivan's life was sadly typical for so many black athletes in America. He suffered from drug and alcohol problems, and had a low paying job after his career in the NFL ended after just five years. His body was torn down from his years of playing football, with knee problems, arthritis and other physical ailments, and his second wife was the one who helped him through it all. His daughters are now 18 and 21, and his wife can no longer afford to pay the mortgage or her daughter's college tuition.

The saddest part of Tom Sullivan's life story is that I could have written it before even hearing it. So many young men seem to think that being talented in sports gives them a license to live a reckless existence that destroys the livelihood and emotional stability of others. In addition to throwing away their academic futures to chase an athletic pipe dream, even the most successful athletes find their bodies destroyed after short-lived careers in the NFL. What's saddest about Tom Sullivan's choices is that he left several victims in the path of his tornado of irresponsibility, and the greatest victims in all of this are his children.


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Parents and spouses reading this article may want to take an inventory of their lives and ask themselves what kind of mess you would leave if you were to die today. Also, I encourage African American males to understand that there is value in making responsible and intelligent decisions, and rising above the temptation to become yet another black male athletic statistic. This is not to disparage the memory of Tom Sullivan or to understate the existence of capable young black men. Instead, it is to encourage the young Tom Sullivans of the world to realize the impact that their actions will have on the lives of others. This should never have happened.

Dr. Boyce Watkins is the founder of the Your Black World Coalition and the Athlete Liberation and Academic Reform Movement (ALARM). To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

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