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Sha' Givens has written a book about single black women in the church and the ways that they can achieve their goals without selling their souls. She is also a young black entrepreneur working to make a mark on the world in which she lives. It is for that reason that Sha' Givens is today's Dr. Boyce Watkins Spotlight on AOL Black Voices:
What is your name, and what do you do?
My name is Sha' Givens. I am an author, inspirational speaker, and the founder and CEO of I CAN FLY International.
What is your educational and professional background?
I received a bachelor's degree in English from San Diego State University. I have worked with numerous non-profit organizations in the field of youth development and women's empowerment for over 15 years. I also started a small for profit business under my own publishing company.
You are the author of three books. Please choose one to briefly expound upon, and share why it is a good book for readers to have.
My latest book release entitled 'SEX AND THE SINGLE CHURCH SISTER How To Keep Your Dress On When You Want to Take It Off' is a non-fiction, self-help guide for unmarried women. It helps one navigate their way through the most prominent issues of our time facing contemporary single women. This transparent page turner covers issues few dare to speak openly about –- especially in the church. It is a must read for every unmarried woman waiting for Mr. Right or currently involved with Mr. Right Now.
As founder of I CAN FLY International Inc., you have helped to establish adult literacy schools, pre-schools, and high schools among other things. Beyond education, how else has your organization positively changed the lives of others?
My organization helps give so many people hope. We empower others to believe that nothing is impossible in spite of their economic status, gender, or educational level. We help people believe that dreams come true and assist them in finding the resources to do so. Our organization has been instrumental in many areas from assisting others with their entrepreneurial endeavors to spiritual wealth.
What challenges did you face when building your organization, and what is one key business tip you would share with entrepreneurs?
When I first began building my organization I was challenged by fear. I wasn't sure if the organization would be a success. I was afraid of failure. I didn't have the finances or resources to create a viable organization, but I waited and worked and kept believing that big doors would one day open. My tip: I encourage every entrepreneur to create his or her own opportunities. You won't see changes if you stand on the sidelines waiting for someone to notice you. Find unconventional ways to gain the resources and attention you need to succeed. Think out of the box.
Do you have any advice for aspiring young African Americans who wish to follow in your footsteps?
Yes. I always advise others to have a clear plan while building their organization or business. Write the vision down clearly and collaborate with people you absolutely trust for counsel or support. Find yourself a mentor, and become their sponge. Do not allow a few closed doors to stop you from achieving the goal. Do your research and carefully watch others who have arrived at the destination you're trying accomplish. Learn from their mistakes and embrace their victories. Be humble and honest about what you don't know. Be eager and motivated to learn as much as you can about the business.
Is there anything else you would like to share with our AOL Black Voices?
Yes. Every journey is filled with rewards and challenges. Don't seek fame or fortune as you set out to achieve greatness. If no one ever knows your name, be faithful to the cause because it's your calling. Remember, to whom much is given, much is required.
Sha' Givens can be contacted at www.shagivensspeaks.com or 1-888-412-9694.
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By: jay on 2/23/2011 8:44AM
This should be a interesting book and is very relevant because some churches do make you feel a certain way if you are not married.
Of if you your whole family does not belong to the church. you have to believe and have enough faith to know that you are going for yourself and for the Lord the author and finisher.
Some churches cater to the young and single and they are the ones that seem the most successful.
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By: Greg on 2/23/2011 9:59PM
Everybody already is aware, and knows how these church sisters are! They're promiscuous as all get out, and only continue to play their usual "I'm so innocent, and pure " game. They continue to have OOW babies just like the majority of BW do, so please don't come here trying to glorify these fake christians that sit up in church every Sunday playing their usual pathetic, and fake games! The majority of men already know this!
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By: Eduoard on 3/01/2011 1:40AM
Here you go again harping on and putting black women down. It's ok not to like women, but do you have to put them down at every turn. I don't date women but I like them. Your homosexuality is showing. You are obsessed. You should seek counseling. This thing is going to stick to your bones and fester like cancer. To late, it's done that already. Get help
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By: leonard c johnson on 2/25/2011 2:13PM
yea your right greg and I do not think you are a homo. The second thing a woman here in la ask you is will you go to church with me if they can get you in church they can control you. a good share of the ones you see in church sunday mornings are out shaking it saturday night trying to ketch something. In case your wondering what the first thing is how much money do you have or as sherie of the view says what is your fica score. after being here in la for ten years I would rather be by my self.halalula at home.
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By: Eduoard on 2/26/2011 1:57AM
@Leonard Johnson..Of course you don't think Greg is gay because you know he is. You're probably his lover. Why don't we all meet up and have a threesome. Maybe I can pop some of that hate for women out of Greg's behind. Leonard must be bottom cuz Greg surely feel top to me. Owwwww
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By: Edujustice2005 on 2/24/2011 12:42AM
I say those who are not married, should not allow the preacher or members to say anything about them not being married. I am not and when one start talking that nonsense to me, I offer them my Bible or tell them they can use their Bible, but I want you to show me where Christ stated in the Bible that I should be married! They close up then b/c they cannot show me. One do not have to be married to attend church. You should not allow them to control your life, and that's what the Black pastors try to do nowadays. Preach God teaching and leave one personal life along, but as long as you allow them to control your life they will continue. Be strong and speak your peace!
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By: dee on 2/24/2011 1:04AM
Problem arises when the single woman desires to be a mother, and this is where faith really comes to the forefront. Too many women, myself included may fall for the wrong guy, and prey to lust and loneliness and bear its unfortunate fruit. Fortunately marriage (to the right man of course) can alleviate this dilemna. It is written, all you need is faith the size of a mustard seed and you can move mountains.Anythings possible with faith.
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By: Leta Calvert on 2/24/2011 8:51AM
In reference to single women and the black church. In the beginning of the good Book God states that it is not good for man to be alone! We were never created to be alone and that includes females also. When we as women understand our roles from a biblical perspective as oppossed to societies perspective we will not get caught up in allowing our lives to be defined whether we are single or married. Our 1st example of what we should look for in a man should be shaped by the relationship we have with our fathers. If that is a missing link, then we travel on the path of looking for the love we never recieved from our fathers through our relationships. It is important for women to understand that their self worth must come from within. No man can complete you only God can. Woman was created for man. But society teaches I am woman hear me roar! And we find ourselves competing with man in the market place and church instead of complimenting one anothers roles as male and females. As long as you feel like you need a man you will be most miserable. I need God but desire a man. I can live without a man however I can not live without God. I look forward to being loved by the right man one day however chillin with a brother for the sake of not being alone knowing there will be no committment is truly for the birds. Experience is truly the best teacher! I have experienced plenty of frogs but was spared warts. When it comes to single women and the black church be about your Fathers' business and all things are possible to them that believe. Even though the statistics say there are a shortage of men. I choose to believe that if it is Gods' will for me to be divinely connected it will happen in His time. I do believe!
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By: fathaz_luv on 2/24/2011 11:32AM
I applaud you sister. There are some good blogs out there but the people that read them have their own warped perception of it. If the young ladies in the world would only listen to your comments and receive it and act on it, then glory would be to GOD! Everyone seems to be more concerned about me, myself, and I instead of trying to win souls to our one and only true GOD.
Why would you want to be without a companion to share your numbered days on this earth. My wife can take some mentoring from you. Instead of being a help mate she very often underminds my headship and tries to be come independent only to see that her ways had her and the family hurting in the end. Time and Money management is a big problem with my spouse. She's a minister in church, mother of one (housemom), and part-time hair stylist. I pay all the bills and tries to help her repair her credit. I hear the "I am grown, and you are not my father" comments often. I am a dedicated husband, loving father, and a great provider. There should be a time to lay down childish things and grow to be the inspiration the Lord intended you to be. Married women should not be hanging out with single women sneaking to the club, etc. My marriage was ordained by GOD and the Devil is trying to attack my family. I at times get wiery but I pray and know GOD will work it out. My wife is a loving woman that's been through some things. Her heart is filled with hurt for GOD's people. She is a loving mother of one who recognizes she is blessed by GOD to raise one of his precious gifts. I said all this to be a testimony to some young lady or male out there. Marriage is not easy and it takes patience, love, understanding, and most importantly "GOD". Though I am being tested right now I will stand strong for my family and lift of his name. The DEVIL has blinded some many of GOD's people. We need to strive to take our lives back through Jesus.
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By: Nay on 3/10/2011 9:46PM
Excellent comment. Wouldn't add one word to it. May you continue to live abundantly and may you meet your Boaz at the appointed time.
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